I Respect But Feel Sorry for My Homosexual Friends

I have many friends who are homosexual. They seem to gravitate towards me for some unexplained reason; maybe it's because I treat them as human beings and treat them as friends. Some of them have decided to pursue a gay lifestyle; and, some of them have decided to remain celibate for life. Some of them are Mormon, and some of them are not. Some have fallen for gay sex and are now trying to repent of it. Some have attempted suicide.

No matter their current situation, they each pay a high price for their choices and for the aspects of their condition that they cannot change or overcome; and, I feel sorry for them.

Most of them have proven to be very nice wonderful people who have just happened to fall into an unfortunate situation. I look at homosexuality much like an illness, such as influenza or cancer or alcoholism or some such.

When it comes to influenza, there's not much you can do to keep from getting it. It comes when it comes, and it can take months or even years to get over it. The scars from it can sometimes last for a life-time. Some of my celibate homosexual friends seem to fall into this case study or model or comparison. And, I know of some who have gotten over it well enough that they are able to function and live in a heterosexual relationship. I know of others who have chosen to remain celibate, and have chosen not to date anyone.

Again, there's usually not much you can do to prevent yourself from getting cancer. If it's determined to come, there's not much you can do to stop it. Getting over cancer can take years and some extreme therapy, and some people simply never get over it. They die before they get over it. I know of some who have fought their homosexual tendencies all their lives with no success whatsoever. They can't overcome it, no matter how much they want to do so or pray to do so. A thousand temple visits hasn't gotten them over it. They don't even experience moments of remission. They don't like it, but have found no way to overcome it. It's a situation that is going to have to be resolved for them in the next life. They don't like being that way, and I feel sorry for them.

Alcoholism, much like a gay lifestyle, is a result of choices that you make along the way; and, they both can be addictive and nearly impossible to overcome. I have known some people who have killed themselves with drink or other addictions. Most of my homosexual friends who have chosen a gay lifestyle fit into this overall category. There were choices they made along the way that led them into a gay relationship; yet, the feelings of love that they have for their chosen partner seem to be as real as the feelings I have for my wife and posterity, sometimes even more so, because they have had to pay dearly and sacrifice a lot for the relationship. The friends I have (in and out of the LDS Church), who have chosen a gay relationship, currently have no desires to pursue a heterosexual relationship. They seem to be satisfied with their choice.

Bisexuals can go either way. Their condition is most influenced by environmental or social conditions. They can live a gay lifestyle, yet give it up at will and switch the other way. The successful “repentance” stories in the LDS Church where people repent of their homosexuality and become heterosexual consist mostly of Latter-day Saints who are truly bisexual in their orientation. The successful reparative therapy stories fit this mold as well. If they want to be heterosexual, they can be at will. Females seem to have an easier time with this (orientation switching) than males do. Females do not need a physical attraction in order to function in a heterosexual relationship; males do.

I'm overjoyed that the Lord saw fit to throw my orientation switch the heterosexual direction when it came time for that switch to be thrown. Like I said, my homosexual friends pay a heavy price for their affliction or their cross in life. I have children and a grandchild, and each one of them has a piece of me inside of them. That can be quite a satisfying and enjoyable feeling, even for a man. My homosexual friends who are celibate or who pursue a gay relationship will never have children that have a piece of them inside them. They have no branches. Some of them even deny their roots. I feel sorry for them, and I'm glad it didn't happen to me; but, I still like these people nonetheless.

They pay a heavy price. Many of them are left without root (no sealing to their forefathers in a temple of God); and, they are left without branch (no physical posterity and no posterity sealed to them in a temple of God). Their situation has been talked about in each of the LDS scriptures. Imagine what would have happened if Adam, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, or Jacob had decided to pursue a homosexual relationship or had decided that they didn't want to get married and have the responsibility of children. There would have been no branches or nations, as a result.

3 Ne 25:1

1 FOR behold, the day cometh that shall burn as an oven; and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble; and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the Lord of Hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch.

D&C 133:64

64 And also that which was written by the prophet Malachi: For, behold, the day cometh that shall burn as an oven, and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble; and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the Lord of hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch.

JS-H 1:37

37 For behold, the day cometh that shall burn as an oven, and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly shall burn as stubble; for they that come shall burn them, saith the Lord of Hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch.

Mal 4:1

1 For, behold, the day cometh, that shall burn as an oven; and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble: and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the LORD of hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch.

Being left without branch (posterity) is a heavy price to have to pay for a condition or an illness that the person never remembers having sought.

People who suffer from homosexuality can be great friends – they understand what it is like to suffer and can have a great deal of compassion as a result. As long as they understand that they will never convert me to homosexuality and as long as I understand that I will never convert them to heterosexuality, we can have a wonderful time together and great friendships.

The ones I don't like and don't like being around are the ones that turned activist and are trying to convert me to homosexuality and are trying to ram their homosexuality down my throat. They throw a parade, celebrate their wickedness, preach and proselytize their homosexuality 24/7. I don't want what they are trying to sell me. I have seen myself naked in the mirror after a shower, and all I can say is “no-how” and “no-way”. It's not for me.

The lesbians have it easier than the males, imho. Honestly, the thought of a young child having two mommies is actually a pleasant thought. It's much like the polygamist situation and Sister Wives, where the children have more than one mommy as a result. For a young child, one mommy is worth ten daddies. However, the thought of a young child having two daddies is a downright creepy thought for most of us. Lesbian acts are impotent – they are going nowhere and come across as harmless. In contrast, what's involved in male-on-male sexuality is gross to think about and is the stuff of nightmares for many of us – it's a disease-ridden process. I don't want to be Bubba's wife. That's my worst nightmare. The anus wasn't designed to have things going into it.

Every situation and choice has its consequences, blessings, and curses as a result. If you want children of your own with a piece of you inside of them, a heterosexual relationship is the best and cheapest way to go about that goal. If you are the type of person who doesn't want to be a parent and doesn't want to have children yet have some kind of companionship in life, a homosexual relationship can be one of the best ways to go about that goal. Each choice has its consequences, blessings, and shortcomings.

This is a true principle:

D&C 130:20-21

20 There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated--

21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.

If you want the blessings of a homosexual relationship (and there are some), it's by obedience to the law upon which it is predicated, a homosexual relationship or gay marriage. If you want a college degree, it's by obedience to the law and conditions upon which it is predicated. If you want to be the father of nations, it's by obedience to the law upon which that blessing is predicated. Being a father or mother has its price, and it can be quite a curse at times.

If you don't want children, yet end up in a heterosexual relationship(s) with ten children of your own and a nagging wife or a bunch of ex-wives, it can be a bit of a hell on earth. Likewise, if you want children of your own, homosexual tendencies can be hell on earth. I wanted children of my own, so I'm glad I ended up with heterosexual tendencies.

Some aspects of it come down to your desires and goals in life. Some people simply do not want to become “fathers or mothers of nations”; and, some people do. If you want to become a father of nations or a mother of nations, or if you want to become a God or Goddess, a heterosexual relationship is the best way to go about that goal. On the other hand, there are other kingdoms and other mansions for the people who don't want any part of it. We shouldn't begrudge, envy, resent, or hate people simply because they want or need to go some other direction with their lives. The other Kingdoms are there waiting for them, and I believe they will be happy therein.

Just know that some of the people who suffer from homosexual tendencies just happen to be some of my best and most favorite friends. If I make it to the Celestial Kingdom, I can visualize myself as one of the people who will be visiting them and ministering to them in the other Kingdoms as time permits. I like them, and I like being around them. Of course, I have many heterosexual friends that I like and like being around as well; and, I do want and have wanted children of my own. So, I know which path is right for me.